It’s The Hive’s one month birthday. Today!
Hard to believe it’s only been a month. I’ve experienced so many emotions and jumped on a whole new learning curve. So much has happened in the last 4 weeks!
Top 3 lessons I’ve learned as a new studio owner:
1. My personal practice and systems of self-care must be a priority. Ok, you may be thinking DUH— but actually incorporating this lesson into the everyday? Tricky business. (I’m going to write more about this later in the week. Lots of questions around this still!)
2. Even though it feels like we’ve been open for a long time, the truth is that the studio is still in her infancy and my expectations need to reflect that reality. Over the past weeks it’s become all too obvious the way I (and I suspect many people) sabotage my best efforts with wild expectations that don’t accurately incorporate the big picture.
I’m a person who is used to extreme swings of the pendulum.
New thought: Just because you’re accustomed to something, Melissa, doesn’t mean it’s healthy or that you have to continue experiencing it. Whatever “it” might be.
Accurately interpreting what’s happening (not allowing emotions to cloud my view) and responding appropriately to the situation (not reacting on either end of the emotional scale) :
- eliminates A SUPER DUPER amount of drama in my already crowded mind
- helps me cultivate and sustain a positive attitude
- allows me to establish expectations based on MY value system and MY goals, rather than what I think I should be doing or using someone else’s “success measuring stick”
Yes, this too is tricky business AND at the same time, the discomfort I experience from really sticking to #2 is significantly less than the craziness I experience when I’m freakin’ out and stressing out.
3. Taking care of the clients and community who show up and do the work is way more important than imaginary clients who are “out there” somewhere. During our free week of classes, most of the time slots were pretty full. Once it was time to register and pay for classes, we had fewer folks practicing at the studio. In my lil’doggie brain, this was good because it gave me an opportunity to get the hang of navigating studio owner and teacher life. Then as I thought about it, I realized that there isn’t anyone more important than the folks sitting in right in front of me on their mat.
Whether it’s a room full of folks or just one person, if I’m truly committed to the present moment that one person is the most important thing in-that-moment. They showed up. They are practicing and contributing to the community. Would it be nice to have more clients? Yes. Do I trust that my business will be successful and more clients will fill The Hive? Yes. Will it take a tremendous amount of patience and time? YES.
In the meantime, I get the privilege of working closely with a small but growing community of folks committed to the practice. I know everyone’s name and learning more about each one. I get to watch how they meet a challenge. I get to observe as their bellies fill with breath and feel the way the energy changes in the room as they exhale and soften. We get to learn together what it means to be The Hive Community.
Seriously, why would I want to get distracted from that? It might not be a sound business plan when evaluated by new business standards (are there even new business standards? I think I just made that up!), but it’s my business plan….which leads me to the BONUS LESSON.
I’ve never done anything traditionally or in the way it might have made sense to others. Why would I try it any differently now? This is what I want to do. I feel called to teach and in the deepest part of my marrow believe I’m meant to do this Work. Yes it’s scary and crazy and exciting and frustrating and inspiring and maddening AND (breathing) I can’t think about anything else or talk about anything else. Not because of the scary aspects but because when I’m consumed with the Work of it, when I’m connecting with the community, I lose sense of time and me and them and you. As I wrote on Facebook recently, “the Universe has a pretty good track record.” It feels a little self-indulgent for me to start doubting now.
We are all constantly on a learning curve (whether we want to admit it or not). If you think over the last four weeks, have you uncovered any bonus lessons? Please share with us your favorite BONUS LESSON (from the past 4 weeks or whenever) and we’ll draw a winner from the comments. This post’s lucky commenter will win a $13 Hive gift certificate good for a drop-in or you can apply it to any of our class passes.